[caliga]

Well, whats your opinion?

Does it work?
Doesnt it work?
Or does it depend on the persons involved?

i'll post my thoughts after a couple responses.

[OsoMarron]

i wish you posted your thoughts now... cause i don't quite get what you mean by "with benefits"

[eeerik]

i've always thought about it... but i don't think it would work out because when you physically engage with someone and you don't have that bond... it kind of ruins your relationship doesn't it??

[eeerik]

i wish you posted your thoughts now... cause i don't quite get what you mean by "with benefits"

sex.

[OsoMarron]

*looks at thread location* :doh: of course... for some reason i thought i was in off-topic :heh:

[loplop]

You know Oso, F-Buddies . . . .

[Reki]

It can work for a while occasionly, but almost always you can be guaranteed ones going to end up looking more into it another and gradually will cause more problems then its worth. (well maybe more than its worth, depends on how good the sex is, heehee)

[Mystique]

yep,(its possible) happens in japan all the time and guys are cool with it
(mainly american guys, japanese girls...) there was a dude in our year who had one an all, wondered if they kept it in touch when he left.....

[Harthorn]

fuck buddy..

o geezes.. i can't believe myself saying this but.. that is wrong..

edit: bah.. i dun need to lie to myself here.. i love fuck buddies.. but hate sharing them

[emekos2002]

Depends....I dont mind it at all!! Heck Am doing her right now..with my ex..we broke up but are still both single so in times of need we still will have each other!! its worked out great too:nod:

[caliga]

i'm of the opinion that it depends on the people.

Sure it can work, but some people get attached easily when you start having alot of sex. As long as you can keep your emotional distance then its ok.

It can also depend on the previously relationship you've had. Sometimes it can hurt a friendship if you take it too far.

[Massacre]

i'm of the opinion that it depends on the people.

Sure it can work, but some people get attached easily when you start having alot of sex. As long as you can keep your emotional distance then its ok.

It can also depend on the previously relationship you've had. Sometimes it can hurt a friendship if you take it too far.

Exactly, hence why I gave up on the idea!

[kira80]

I was thinking this kind of things only happened in movies.
So girls are okay with this ? :nani:

Edit: ok if anyone wants to have err...benefits with me... *adds himself to DA Frappr! Map*

[caliga]

I was thinking this kind of things only happened in movies.
So girls are okay with this ? :nani:

the one person i've had benefits with wanted it and she actually asked me if i was interested. So to answer your question: yes.

[OsoMarron]

like regular relationships weren't complicated enough

[caliga]

like regular relationships weren't complicated enough

well the point of it is to rule out the complications, sex with no strings attached without having to pay for it, it also takes the work out of hunting for 1 night stands if you are into that kinda thing (and lowers chances of getting something).

[emekos2002]

doing it, or doing her right now? :fishslap:

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[Ricalloo]

I was thinking this kind of things only happened in movies.
So girls are okay with this ? :nani:

Not the kind you'd wanna hang with IMHO...>_<

[emekos2002]

Not the kind you'd wanna hang with IMHO...>_<

Not really...My GF and I broke up cos we both couldnt do the long distant thing after graduating from high school and going to different colleges. So in times like (if we are single) the summer break we are there for each other. And its not been complicated at all. She's still cool to hang out with cos she loves to have fun just no commitments!

[Harthorn]

Not the kind you'd wanna hang with IMHO...>_<

for once i actually agree with ricalloo..

to me.. that kinda woman/girl is too easy.. probably might have been used quite alot of times already..

[Mystique]

like regular relationships weren't complicated enough

in a way these work out to be simplier cause there is no pressure or expectation of maintaing it for life alike a real relationship.

@ hathorn and ric
again, its always the women to blame if she has more than 3-4 partners in her life, but the guy sleeps around, oh no, he ain't 'easy' at all, neither could he have caught anything and be passing it around just as much.

not necessarily to assume that women in a casual relationship would sleep with tons of guys, esp alike emekos there, it's with someone she cares about, still does. someone better to ask would be emekos himself i guess about that, but that's a lil to much of a generalisation.

[Harthorn]

u see.. its because i am easy too lol..

i see a mirror of myself.. except female keke >_>

and i wouldn't exactly wanna be with someone thats like me.. ~sigh~ so sad..

[kira80]

@ hathorn and ric
again, its always the women to blame if she has more than 3-4 partners in her life, but the guy sleeps around, oh no, he ain't 'easy' at all, neither could he have caught anything and be passing it around just as much.

This popular way of thinking is based on the cultural assumption that men are the ones that ask women to go out with them, while women are the ones that accept them : men are hunters, women are their preys.

A hunter that catch many preys is strong and to be praised, while a prey that is catched by many hunters is weak and to be dispised.

I'm not saying I agree with this, but I can understand the origin of the idea. I don't see any change of this idea before a long, long time because the "men are hunters women are preys" thing is still very strong in many cultures. It may even be written in our genes.

[eeerik]

can you really blame us mystie? were guys after all... I wouldn't really give a damn if a guy friend of mine slept around... but I also wouldn't give him a thumbs up to hook up with any girl that I consider a friend.

^ interesting kira.... :hmm:

[Harthorn]

men are hunters, women are their preys.

NOOOOOO THE SECRET.... DIEEE KIRA U TRAITOR!!!!!!

[cybermewtwo]

i used to have a couple (4 total). only real rule i had was we stuck to only doing the small stuff (bjs being the most) and we had a no kissing rule.

only bad situation was this one time me and one of them almost got caught (she was stupid and invited me over when her mom was on the way home) and i was caught at her house alone with her, her mom got pissed, and she hasnt talked to me at all since.


we all eventaully separated over the years but it wasnt really bad. the truth behind it, is that these are friends you probably trust alittle more than someof your others. if you trust em enought to open urself up to them, then that says something bout your relationship. its not just about the fun fun sucky sucky dance dance dance.... its about a closeness with certain friend. some ppl just call em up like nothing and just use em for w/e cuz their horny and i guess in a way thats true but who your comfortable enough to open ur body up there says something. just dont be a slut. lol

[Ravyncat]

I could never do that.
I understand that some people have no problem with sex without commitments or feelings...but that just seems wrong to me.
I'll never be f-buddy material

I have to totally love someone to even consider having sex with them....and I can't imagine how sad sex with no love would be.

[kira80]

:wow:

*sets understanding of basic female psychology back to normal*

[eeerik]

I have to totally love someone to even consider having sex with them....and I can't imagine how sad sex with no love would be.

most of the girls i surround myself with seem to have that kind of mindset...

[emekos2002]

I could never do that.
I understand that some people have no problem with sex without commitments or feelings...but that just seems wrong to me.
I'll never be f-buddy material

I have to totally love someone to even consider having sex with them....and I can't imagine how sad sex with no love would be.

Well in my case we once were in love...so it isnt that hard for me or her..i guess

[loplop]

I have to totally love someone to even consider having sex with them....and I can't imagine how sad sex with no love would be.

I would have to agree to that myself, I really don't think that you can have a physical relationship without the emotional one . . . .

[Mystique]

that's the thing loplop,
and emotional one doesn't necessarilly mean you have to be fully in love with a person, but u can love a person as a dear friend or someone u repsect and care enough that you're willing to share ur bodies with be it for comfort or even loliness or just for that moment.
in that case feelings wise, i beleive its emekos current situation i guess...

[Ricalloo]

for once i actually agree with ricalloo..

to me.. that kinda woman/girl is too easy.. probably might have been used quite alot of times already..

WOOT. It's abot time... hehe.

@ hathorn and ric
again, its always the women to blame if she has more than 3-4 partners in her life, but the guy sleeps around, oh no, he ain't 'easy' at all, neither could he have caught anything and be passing it around just as much.

I'm not gay... so I don't care if guys are easy or not.

I could never do that.
I understand that some people have no problem with sex without commitments or feelings...but that just seems wrong to me.
I'll never be f-buddy material

I have to totally love someone to even consider having sex with them....and I can't imagine how sad sex with no love would be.

Nice to see there are still some "nice" girls out there.

[Harthorn]

well.. i don't think its a matter of right or wrong..

its jus a matter if you personally are comfortable with it..

i mean sure they can do what they want.. but i wouldn't wanna do the same..

[emekos2002]

that's the thing loplop,
and emotional one doesn't necessarilly mean you have to be fully in love with a person, but u can love a person as a dear friend or someone u repsect and care enough that you're willing to share ur bodies with be it for comfort or even loliness or just for that moment.
in that case feelings wise, i beleive its emekos current situation i guess...

Yup Mystique...and moreover, she is not the type that would make herself easy.


Should have voted for the 3rd option..well cant take it back

[KaXiX]

unlike my sluty bf i've never really had a friends with benefit. like if i was to mess with some guy like i used to we'll eventually go out, but idk....i guess i've had alot of those situations. it's confusing!

[kameroshiso]

it sounds confusing

[Oerot]

Sure, having friends with benefits is possible.
Social security rules!

[Ricalloo]

Social security rules!

Paying it knowing you'll never get it doesn't...:glare:

[Zoena]

I'm not gay... so I don't care if guys are easy or not.

*takes a deep breath and tries to refrain from slapping or flaming*

so you're saying it's ok for GUYS to be as immoral as they want......? :eyebrow:

[loplop]

*takes a deep breath and tries to refrain from slapping or flaming*

so you're saying it's ok for GUYS to be as immoral as they want......? :eyebrow:

Hasn't that always been the story, It's OK for Guys but not for Girls . . . .

[Harthorn]

seriously speaking..

i'm a 'man slut' at heart.. and i wished i wasn't..

thats why i do not like to fuck around.. well i like and i don't like at the same time because of my paradoxial feelings towards 'friends with benefits'

[cybermewtwo]

unlike my sluty bf i've never really had a friends with benefit. like if i was to mess with some guy like i used to we'll eventually go out, but idk....i guess i've had alot of those situations. it's confusing!

>_< damnit woman. why am i the slutty one?!? >_<

:glare: so having friends w/ benifits makes you a slut? then i think u insulted a couple ppl in this thread.. :snicker:

[Harthorn]

it makes you a slut only if you are a 'friend with benifits' to someone else lol

i think it was last year i was invited to an asian sex party.. i felt excited and disgusted at the same time haha.. but i refused to go.. ~sigh~

[The King of Spain]

but i refused to go.. ~sigh~

harthorn lvl 58 pervert: respect -49pts

[Harthorn]

u know.. i didn't wanna catch some wierd STD from anyone..

so i didn't go lol

[Mystique]

harthorn lvl 58 pervert:
gained a new level due to common sense
is now level 59!

as for loplop's comment, for a majority of centuries, yeah guys have been getting away with it, in the western world feminism is a new new thing and all men in the last 30 years or so are born into it, so your ideas aren't as one track minded as those before u. You now have the choice (due to awareness) this time to show a lil respect and act decently in relationships and towards women depsite society giving you an easy ride.

[Harthorn]

i think loplop's being sarcastic?? maybes

[eeerik]

but i don't see why theres so much anger towards guys not caring if guys are 'man-sluts'... isn't it a ladies opinion that matters on that topic... after all... if the women are willing to do it... they must not care as well...

keep in mind... cheating on your girlfriend/spouse is something completely different...

[KaXiX]

>_< damnit woman. why am i the slutty one?!? >_<

:glare: so having friends w/ benifits makes you a slut? then i think u insulted a couple ppl in this thread.. :snicker:

cuz YOU are a slut and you know it.


and you forgot our 8 months thx for showing that you care
<_<